In hindsight, I probably should have mentioned in my first post what my blog was going to be about. However, what I was writing last week just seemed slightly more important. The purpose of this blog is to write about a lesson that I have learned each week that, I feel, is important enough to share. The lessons could come from a story, a quote, a movie, etc. Each of these mediums can teach us a variety of things, and I plan to share these lessons here on this blog.
This week I have been watching a TV show, Charmed, with my best friend, Jon. I introduced him to the show because he likes the world of the supernatural just as much as I do. We have just begun season 3, and I came across a quote that I really liked. In this season the main character’s grandmother comes back from the dead and says, “All valid points, but logic and reason go out the window when love gets involved. (Season 3, episode 2)” I understand what she means by this. Love doesn’t always make sense. When it starts, it can often be mistaken for dislike or even hatred. Then it can grow into a life-long relationship. Or the person you are in love with your entire family hates. To them it doesn’t make sense for you to love that person, but in your head and heart he/she is the only person you could love. Also, when you are young many don’t think that you can love in the same way as an adult can. I disagree. A parent at 40 may think that their 16 year old daughter isn’t truly in love with her boyfriend, but that is the truth of love as the 16 year old sees it.
As a third party, or an outsider, we could never see what qualities either person possessed that made the other fall in love, but just because we don’t understand it doesn’t mean it isn’t love. For instance, when my mother met my father all my grandparents could see was a dead beat working at a truck stop. Even I can’t see what brought them together, but what my mother saw was a good man with a big heart. Or an even more generic example: when two people of the same sex love each other. To the rest of the world what they feel isn’t love, but a force that is against nature. Who are we to question what is or isn’t love for them? Love means different things to different people, and the truth of love is different for each person. What’s my lesson: love isn’t logical and it doesn’t always make sense. The only way that it ever does is when you are on the inside of it. Only when it is happening to you can all the wonders of it. Thanks to “Grams” I understand love a little bit better, so when I am much, much older I can appreciate it more than I would have otherwise.
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Alicia I totally agree with this entry. I fell in love with my ex-boyfriend when I was a sophomore and of course no one understood themselves. Especially my dad. He absolutely hated him and I went so far as to sneak around just to hang out with him. We have broken up because he did not treat me well but I still love him. I do now see why neither of my parents liked him. I learned a great lesson from that.
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful lesson. I am happy that you are discussing risky subject such as same sex marriage. Some are not brave enough to talk about that but it needs to be addressed. Love is a very complicated emotion and you are right many people judge others feelings and cast them off as fake love but there is no way to know for sure until you are in that position. I find it extraordinary that such a revelation of love came from watching television with your friend it just proves that lessons are all around us.
ReplyDeleteAlicia, this is wonderful. Many of us do think we are in love with whoever our crush is of the week.I have thought in the past I was "in love", and boy was I wrong. It is fun to see what can be turned into love, with what you said, how it can start as hatred or dislike. Love is a big subject. It can be broken down into friendship. The person you love will become your best friend. It is amazing the lessons you have learned, and I enjoy reading them very much! I know that these lessons will help everyone who reads them.
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate to this post! I have been in love for a year. This feeling I have for this person is incredible. No one can understand this feeling except for the people that have felt this way before. Of course there are complications, but love is complicated. Love is such a broad word, but I couldn’t imagine my life without him or his friendship. I haven’t figured out if it will last, and hopefully it will, but for now I just love being lost in love. You explained this feeling beautifully in your post. I enjoy the empathetic voice in your post because love happens to everyone, whether it is a friendship or a deeper relationship.
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