Rodger Rabbit

We meet again interweb. It’s been a rough week. It’s been the kind of week that makes me think that all life is good for is a swift kick in the balls. I remember growing up and hearing the tired cliché, “Life gets better.” I am sorry to say that I don’t think that this is entirely true for everyone. Obviously, there are those out there who had a turbulent time and came out on top. Good for those people. They are truly lucky to have been able to turn the tides and find that better life.  It’s remarkable. However, there are those out there that are not that lucky.  There are those who have a shit show for a life from start to finish. They grow up in rough homes, and they suffer many tragic losses in their lives. I would say for those people life didn’t get any better. They felt unimaginable pain with no reprieve.

This brings us to what I wanted to talk about. I was listening to music at work today, I know big shocker there, and a wonderful song by the name of Rodger Rabbit by Sleeping with Sirens played. This song has always spoke to me in plethora of ways. I feel like every time my life has changed, and I listen to this song I discover a new meaning to the words. There is a lyric in this song that says, “Nobody’s gonna feel your pain when all is done, and it’s time for you to walk away.” This really resonated with me. Despite how much we would like to believe that people care about what is going on with us that doesn’t mean that they can feel our pain. We are the only ones that experience it. Humans posses the ability to sympathize, but I don’t believe we can ever truly empathize.

It’s like Tolstoy says, “Every happy family is alike. Every unhappy family is unhappy in their own way.” Our troubles are uniquely our own, and we all react to them in different ways. There is no one that can feel our pain but us. We expect them to understand it, and they simply can’t. This leads us to lash out, or even walk away. I understand being unhappy. I understand going through hard times, but we need to stop pushing people away for not being able to empathize with us. I know this is difficult. Hell, it’s damn near impossible, but we have to try. By pushing these people, we gain nothing. We lost our support system and end up alone.

Here is the lesson I hope that you take away from this: I know that life can be a big ol’ bag of dicks, but please don’t push people out of your life because of it. This life is hard enough without having to go at it alone. The people in your life may not be able to understand what you pain is, but they can help you survive it. Life may not get “better”, but it can get more bearable.