Going Through the Motions

Well music has once again proven to be quite the inspiration for this blog. As many of you know I listen to music pretty much 24/7. I wake up to it, and I fall asleep to it. I shower with it, work with it, think violent thoughts with it.

This week I have been really grooving on a band called Myka Relocate. Total side note: they’re amazing, and you should check them out. Anyway, they have this song called The Young Souls. There is this lyric in the song that says, “So busy saying that we care…have we forgot the meaning?” How impactful.

This to me is asking if we really feel the way we do, or if we’re just saying it because it is expected of us. Like when someone says, “I love you.” Most automatically reply with the same sentiment. However, how many actually mean it. Another common phrase is, “You can always talk to me.” I don’t think we realize how often we make this empty promise. I am not a saint in this. I’ve absolutely done the same thing. Yet I want to draw attention to it, so that all people we attempt to mean what they say.

The lesson that needs to be learned here is to not go through the motions. Don’t be so busy saying something you aren’t actually paying attention to what it is that you are saying. If you make a promise to always listen then you need to do exactly that. When you say, “I love you, too,” don’t say it simply as a reflex. You need to really mean it, and if you don’t mean what you say then maybe you don’t need to be saying it. Articulating feelings is never easy, but you should never feel obligated to say something just to placate someone else. Mean what you say, and always say what you mean. Otherwise your words are meaningless.

                                                                                                                                                                          

Safe Haven

Howdy, interwebers. I apologize for the leave of absence that I took over the last few months. The thing is I moved, and I also completely forgot to post. My bad. However, I am back now, so all of you who read this can rest easy that there are more lessons to be learned.

This week I wanted to talk about something near and dear to my heart. I want to talk about people. Even though there are lots of humans out there who are, for lack of a better word, assholes. They make it difficult to find any redeeming qualities in this planet. I see it every day. There are people who are just cruel because they can be. I thought I had pretty much cut everyone out of my life that was like this. I was so very wrong.

It turns out that I moved in with someone who takes joy in inflicting emotional pain on me. She can be so awful it’s a wonder I haven’t just said enough and moved out.  Your home is supposed to a sanctuary. A place you can go to be safe and secure. You go home to escape the horrors of society. My sanctuary has once again been taken from me. I trusted this person to safe guard our home from negativity and deceit, but I found myself surrounded by it more than I thought possible. I prefer the hustle and bustle of my menial job to my home. How truly depressing, but living with her has shown me to importance of being gracious and kind.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again…sometimes the most wonderful thing you can do for someone is to show them a little kindness. You never know what they are dealing with outside the time they are with you. Show them that at least you care about their well-being.  Im not saying you should kiss their butts or anything. However, you can throw a complement their way every once in a while. Or even just sit and listen to what is going on in their lives. It’s amazing how much people can open up when you just shut your mouth, and be attentive.

The lesson I want you all to take away from this is simple; Simple acts of kindness. Open a door for someone. Tell them they have a killer ass, or that you like the way they smell. I honestly don’t care how you do it just do it. There is so much hate and violence in the world. Imagine what kind of future we could create if we just start treating each other with love and respect. Maybe Christ was on the something when he said to “love thy neighbor as thyself.”